Our lives are filled with events we react to in different ways, and our reactions are based on the meanings we give them. These meanings form stories we tell ourselves. They become ingrained in our hearts and souls as truth, rooted into our mindsets and presented to the world via our behaviours. They affect the decisions we make and influence the quality of our lives. Can we change our mindsets? Professor David James believes we can, and shows how – by reframing the way we ask questions about life and events – we can change our stories, change our behaviours, and improve the quality of our lives. Watch the video hereRead More
“Be the one who nurtures and builds. Be the one who has an understanding and forgiving heart. One who looks for the best in other people. Leave people better than you found them”
— Marcus Aurelius
One thing is clear: boys grow up in a world inhabited by a narrower range of emotions, one in which their experiences of anger are noticed, inferred and potentially even cultivated. This leaves other emotions — particularly the more vulnerable emotions—sorely ignored or missing in their growing minds. This is all the more concerning given that research from Harvard Medical School shows…Read More
A newborn’s brain contains 100 billion brain cells or neurons. These neurons are highly connected as one of their roles is communication, and amazingly a single cell can connect with as many as 15,000 other neurons. These connections are created through experience and learning and lead to a network which is referred to as the brain’s “wiring”. In the research, it is known that “cells that fire together, wire together”. So cells which repeatedly connect or fire together, will create a stronger, lasting bond and will therefore wire together.Read More
Recently, I was talking to my friend Jo about her life as a 40-something singleton. Her marriage broke up two years ago – since then, she cheerfully admitted, she has become an online dating obsessive: “I’m now signed up to so many apps, I can barely remember which ones I’m on.”
We all have stories within us. Most of us have many stories.
What are the stories we tell ourselves about love and relationships?
Are you someone who tells yourself that all the good relationships happen to other people?Read More
Learning how to cope with adversity is an important part of healthy development. While moderate, short-lived stress responses in the body can promote growth, toxic stress is the strong, unrelieved activation of the body's stress management system in the absence of protective adult support.Read More
Genes provide the basic blueprint, but experiences influence how or whether genes are expressed. Together, they shape the quality of brain architecture and establish either a sturdy or a fragile foundation for all of the learning, health, and behavior that follow.Read More
Are you a perfectionist? Do you think it helps you motivate yourself to aim high and make a concerted effort to do your best when facing challenges? The process of pouring your heart into accomplishing something that pushes against your limits and is both challenging and rewarding feels good. This is especially true, when you let go of a perfectionistic need to "win-at-all-costs" in order to feel extrinsically validated and worthy.
On the flip side, too much...Read More