Parenting in real life...

We are here to take the pain out of parenting, so you can enjoy the fun, loving times with your children. Because we all know that parenting is a funny business..

As parents, we influence our children’s ability to cope with life’s ups and downs every day. We set them up for a lifetime of happiness or unhappiness from the very beginning...

Before becoming parents, we all have a view of how we will raise our children, what we will do and won’t ever do in situations, and how we will shape their little lives, so they can be happy, healthy and can live a fulfilling life they desire.

Then something happens. Real life happens. Some days we feel we managed to achieve progress, some day we feel that we failed. Situations arise that we didn't expect and at times we react in ways we don't want to. Sometimes we may even react like our parents did. Which is what we pre-promised ourselves we won’t do. Ever. And then we do things other people tell us, because it’s a ‘good old established way’ to get our children to do things we need them to do to get through the messy or hurried routines of the day. And then we react to situations in ways that we don't even approve of. 

Tomorrow is another day. We can make it better again. We can try a new approach. But our children grow up so much quicker than we think and they learn things from us so much quicker than we realise too. 

On average, we don’t spend much time with them these days. Before we know it, they are away from home in some kind of childcare / school and we only see them the late afternoons / evenings for some schoolwork, dinner & bath time routine, mostly consisting of giving them instructions.. Sounds familiar? 

Time is precious and we don't have much quality time with them. Let’s use our time together wisely.

How can we create a happy and balanced life for our family and children before it is too late? How do we become ‘good enough’ parents?

It is a fact that the habits we create as children set our template for a lifetime. 

Being comfortable with ourselves means being at our best, no matter what our age. Whether we realise it or not, this is our most important asset.

Parents are laying the foundations every day to either help or jeopardise the development of their children’s emerging personalities. 

Young people need to make decisions to build their lives ahead of them, so it’s best they do this with a clear, happy and emotionally balanced mind. 

Emotional balance is the ability of the mind and body to maintain equilibrium and flexibility in the face of challenge and change. Emotional balance promotes physical health, and is a prerequisite for personal wellbeing and growth. Our happiness depends on how we perceive and react to life’s events.

We live our lives in a constant flow of thoughts and emotions and our health and happiness depends on us remaining in a balanced mental/emotional state. We all experience negative thoughts and emotions from time to time, but if we stay in the negative state for too long, we lose the ability to return to our balanced, neutral position.

We might find ourselves “locked” in any number of negative states, such as anger, fear, worry, anxiety, dissociation, self-sabotage or depression, agitation, impulsivity, panic attacks and sleep trouble, lack of drive and motivation, or poor concentration. 

These stuck emotions run just below the level of consciousness, intangible, yet often overwhelming. These uncomfortable emotions can dominate our thinking process and give rise to inappropriate behaviour and reactions that impair our ability to be at our best.

There are the times, when we don't know what is going on with our children, they don't seem to be ‘themselves’ or their behaviours change in ways we don't expect.

As parents, we influence our children’s ability to cope with life’s ups and downs every day. We set them up for a lifetime of happiness or unhappiness from the very beginning, sometimes using our ‘outdated’ tools we learnt from our parents or using a ‘shooting in the dark’ attitude to parenting when problems arise, rather than consciously reacting in a helpful way and setting a good example for them. 

They will fall back on these experiences whether positive or negative when the going gets rough in their lives, so why not give them something useful they can fall back on when they will be in biggest need of these skills?

We do the research, so you don't have to. 

Using findings from the latest behaviour and brain research, we help parents focus on the most valuable tools. Through using simple techniques, you can learn how to help your child’s brain to break out of involuntary habits, allowing a shift back into their natural, contented state – facing situations and circumstances with greater happiness and resilience. 

The most common benefits people report after training with us aretheir children’s improved overall behaviour, mental flexibility, reduced anxiety, better mental performance and improved emotional control which is crucial for social skills.

ACCORDING TO RESEARCH, PROBLEM SOLVING IS OUR MOST VALUABLE TOOL AND IS A BUILDING BLOCK FOR OUR SELF-ESTEEM, UNDERLYING EVERYTHING WE DO IN LIFE.

Helping our children being comfortable with themselves and helping them find their emotional balance is a large component of reaching their optimal mental, emotional and physical health. This is the biggest gift we can help them achieve.

To arrange your individual sessions, please contact us.