Our lives are filled with events we react to in different ways, and our reactions are based on the meanings we give them. These meanings form stories we tell ourselves. They become ingrained in our hearts and souls as truth, rooted into our mindsets and presented to the world via our behaviours. They affect the decisions we make and influence the quality of our lives. Can we change our mindsets? Professor David James believes we can, and shows how – by reframing the way we ask questions about life and events – we can change our stories, change our behaviours, and improve the quality of our lives. Watch the video hereRead More
“Be the one who nurtures and builds. Be the one who has an understanding and forgiving heart. One who looks for the best in other people. Leave people better than you found them”
— Marcus Aurelius
Are you a perfectionist? Do you think it helps you motivate yourself to aim high and make a concerted effort to do your best when facing challenges? The process of pouring your heart into accomplishing something that pushes against your limits and is both challenging and rewarding feels good. This is especially true, when you let go of a perfectionistic need to "win-at-all-costs" in order to feel extrinsically validated and worthy.
On the flip side, too much...Read More
Did you know that in relationships, we often prefer the familiar (staying together) to the unfamiliar (breaking up), even if we're currently unhappy with our partner. This is called Status Quo bias. There are many of these biases affecting our behaviour and choices every day.Read More
Harry is 45-year old. He has been married for 16 years, but his marriage has been very troubled. He and his wife are often resentful of each other, they rarely communicate on an intimate level, and they have few moments of real pleasure.
Other aspects of Harry’s life have been equally unsatisfying. He doesn’t enjoy his work, primarily because he doesn’t get along with his co-workers. He is often intimidated by his boss and other people at the office. He has a few friends outside of work, but none that he considers close.
During the past year Harry’s mood becameRead More
Over many years of working with people, it became obvious to me that in the process of ‘becoming’ we think we need to be perfect. What do I mean by this? We become addicted to perfecting ourselves, to carving out a ‘front’ that would be admired by all around us. And this then destroys us if we are not careful.Read More
So you are next to take on the family business. The legacy. The hard work of your parents or perhaps even generations. How do you do it? What if you don't want to do it? Is it harder than it seems?Read More